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Sunday, November 28, 2010

Own your sexuality

It's easy in today's society to try to force yourself into one category or another where your sexuality is concerned. By society's standards if you are a woman that is attracted to and has relations with other women you are a lesbian, if you are a man that is attracted to and has relations with other men you are gay, and if you are either male or female and you are attracted to both sexes then you are bi-sexual. These standards are fairly rigid, especially because for most of us sexuality is a journey, an exploration not only of the people around us, but also of ourselves. If we force ourselves to be shoe horned into one of these categories or another we may not be experiencing something that we could really enjoy or that may be a large part of who we are.

Don't Force It!

If you are predominately attracted to one sex or the other don't force the issue. Yes, by all standards you may then either be gay or straight but there is no need to assume that things couldn't change. Even if you are a man that has always been attracted to women there is nothing to say that there isn't a man out there that is so perfectly suited for you that you wouldn't at least consider a relationship with him. Does this mean that you are no longer straight? No! It just means that you cannot force the issue. You are not who you are attracted to, and you cannot force yourself to fit into one orientation or another. You are who you are and you are attracted to people because of who they are.

Go Ahead, Experiment!

If you are curious about whether or not your mere attraction to other men or women may be physical why not experiment? As long as you are safe and you takecprecautions to only experiment with people who are equally as safe, as discretionary, and as quiet about their sexual encounters as you are you will find that you can experiment and find out what else may be out there. If you enjoy yourself, then you will have found a whole new side of yourself. If you find that it is not for you, then you know and you will have grown as a person.

Sex should be Fun!

Sex is a form of expression, and only you know and can choose who you want to have sex with. You don't have to have sex with only one type of person or one sex to be okay with yourself. As long as you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else, allow yourself to have fun with your body and to explore through sex and sexuality. Too many people hold back and identify themselves through who they have sex with, and that really is not any way to live!

By Jenna Stevenson. For more articles on sexuality from a female perspective, visit Scandalous Women.

posted by Stephanie at 11/28/2010 09:01:00 AM 0 comments

Saturday, November 27, 2010

Swingers and the swinging lifestyle: party at your neighbor's house?

There are many myths and misconceptions around swing lifestyles (or simply "swinging"). Just what is swinging about and who are the so so-called swingers?

Swinging can be defined as the act of sharing yourself and your spouse with another couple, or other couples, with the full knowledge of all involved. It is the participants of this lifestyle who are referred to as swingers.

There quite a few myths and misconception about swinging and swingers. One common misconception is that swinging is the definition of swinging as "wife swapping." This definition is inaccurate in that it does not explain to explain the full range of sexual activities that swinging encompasses. It also gives the impression of a male-favored activity, which too is inaccurate as swinging involves full participation of both partners.

Another common misconception is that swingers are older couples who are bordering on being perverted. The swing lifestyle is composed of people of all ages, including ordinary next-door types who exemplify marital happiness.

In fact, one of the requirements for people seeking to join a swinger's group or party is that the couple must be reasonably happy in their marriage. The reason for this is that swinging should not be used as an escape from or alternative to an unhappy relationship.

Most people find it inconceivable that one would allow his/her partner to have casual sex with another person, stranger or not. But to swingers, this is an acceptable form of social recreation.

Swing lifestyles and activities are as broad and varied as are swingers. They include:

1. Soft swinging: Also known as soft swap, this is doing everything with another person except sexual intercourse. Usually they will stop at the last minute and switch back to their original partner. At this point they might choose to have sex with their own partner in front of the other people. Most first-time swingers begin this way.

2. Open swinging: This is when the couples swap (know as full swap) and actually have sexual intercourse in the same room or on the same bed. This includes threesomes, orgies, exhibitionism, voyeurism and anything in between.

3. Closed swinging: Usually a full swap, but sexual intercourse takes place in separate rooms. This is for those who feel the need for more freedom or don't like interruptions. This type of swing is mainly practiced by the more experienced couples, as a higher degree of trust is essential.

Why do they do it? Why would anyone want to be a swinger? Well, the reasons are as varied as the couples themselves.

One reason is the need to explore sexual fantasies without having to "cheat" on one's partner. Maybe they just want variety in their sex lives, or good old fun. The couple may have married too young and never had a chance to "sow their wild oats." And so on.

Does this mean that the couples never feel any jealousy? This is the biggest hurdle to overcome, especially in the beginning. Not all couples go through with it. A number of those who stick with it say that jealousy actually makes them even more sexually charged up, as well as creates deeper interest in their mates.

Some swingers claim that it is the actual giving or "letting go" in order to make the partner happy that is the essence of this lifestyle.

Obviously, not all couples can be swingers (this writer is not one) and this article is not about asking you to become one. As with anything else, swing lifestyles do carry certain liabilities and risks, which are subject of another article.

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posted by Stephanie at 11/27/2010 09:44:00 AM

Monday, November 30, 2009

Give a Man a Blow Job He'll Never Forget

You want to give your man a blow job that he'll never forget. You want to easily become the best that he has ever had and you want to drive him wild. Unfortunately, you don't know how to make that happen so you definitely are in need of some help.

A lot of women are very tame when it comes to giving a man oral sex, and you can't be. You have to run a little wild and make it exciting because that is what makes it memorable. In order to do this, you need some tips so you can be more confident.

First of all, you can use a hand to stimulate the shaft of his member as you work on the tip with your mouth. The roughness of your hand will be something that he will be craving and that he will love. Combine that with your soft lips caressing the tip, and this will be something that he won't forget.

As well, make some moans and groans. You don't have to be silent while you are going down on him. The more moans and groans you make the better because the vibrations form your mouth will surge through his member and will give him a whole new stimulation that he never thought possible.

Be sexy and be confident and this is how you are going to give a man a blow job he'll never forget.

Use these tips today so you can be the best that he has ever had.

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posted by Stephanie at 11/30/2009 11:49:00 AM